You could say things like:

• I sleep through the night. I sleep deeply and well
• I wake up relaxed, refreshed, restored, renewed, revived
• I will have a great day tomorrow. I’ll meet the right people and speak with the right people. Everything goes my way
• I am healthy and well. I am healthy and well

After a few nights of positive self talk you will notice that you fall asleep quicker and that your days become much easier.

If a child comes to you and says “I don’t feel so good”, you respond “where does it hurt?”. The child tells you where and you begin the process of fixing the ailing area. So why don’t people do the same thing in their life? They don’t ask themselves the right question, because they don’t know the right question.

The decisions you have made in the past affect you today. In this way, the irrationalities, fears, aversions, dislikes, and barriers preventing you from reaching your goals are there simply because of decisions you have made. The environment you are in today is confused with the environment of that of yesterday. What we will do is clear those decisions out of the way so that your environment and future is not confused.

This could be anything, from losing weight to being more confident in yourself and your abilities. It could be any problems you have talking to the opposite sex, public speaking, or just barriers in the way of you doing and achieving what you want to do in life.

What we are going to do is make a list of all the things that you are upset about, what you really want to see changed in your life. We want to find out what exactly you are upset about or what you want to see changed. We want the real deal. We want to get to the bottom of the decisions and considerations you have.

1. First of all, write down the main thing that you are upset about, what it is that is bothering you, whatever behavior pattern, thought pattern, past bad experience that is still bothering you
2. Ask yourself “what is wrong with that?”, “Why?”
3. Write down the answer
4. Repeat 2 and 3 until you have a real eureka moment

Now that you have the real issue underlying how you feel we need to find out the earliest time when that incident or idea occurred. Keep scanning around until you find what is most real to you. By just finding this you will get a feeling of relief.

Now, regarding that incident or time, ask yourself each of the following questions in turn. You may not be able to answer each one, if not, continue on to the next question.

1. At that time, was anything suppressed?
2. At that time, was anything you were careful of?
3. At that time, was anything didn’t reveal?
4. At that time, was there anything there that you said wasn’t there?
5. At that time, was anything suggested?
6. At that time, had a mistake been made?
7. At that time, was anything protested?
8. At that time, was anything you were anxious about?
9. At that time, was anything decided?
10. At that time, was anything withdrawn from?
11. At that time, was anything reached?
12. At that time, was anything ignored?
13. At that time, was anything stated?
14. At that time, was anything helped?
15. At that time, was anything altered?
16. At that time, was anything revealed?
17. At that time, was anything asserted?
18. At that time, was anything agreed with?

If you have experienced a good deal of relief, end off and enjoy the feeling. If you feel that there is more, go to the beginning step and repeat.

So we have modern lifestyles with its incumbent stress, those who feel fine but want to improve what they have got. How can you improve then? Hypnosis and self hypnosis have been around a long time, but where are all the success stories? It seems the only “miracle” stories are few and far between. NLP it seems has taken over the market these days. But is all of this necessary for simply developing a winning attitude? The classic “every day in every way I’m getting better and better” is the classic phrase, or mantra, has been adopted by the hypnosis community, but in reality this phrase is just an affirmation of yourself.

Life is full of traumatic experiences, and full of people going through those experiences. Upsets can be as contagious as any disease. A man’s dog dies and he walks along the street glowering at people. They have no idea what he is going though, yet that glower will affect them negatively. It is natural for a person who has any sort of upset to feel sad – that is the appropriate emotion for the experience. If a person feels sad for no apparent reason, this is an area where positive thinking will work wonders.

Each and every time you think the same thought, patterns in your mind and even a physical change in neurones occur in your brain. This is scientific fact. A person can and does get into certain behavior patterns – either good or bad. The more times you have thought the way you have thought, the more solid it appears. The more “thats just the way it is” it seems to be. This is not necessarily true. It is as solid as you are making it.

If you have been thinking negative thoughts for weeks, years, or even most of your lifetime, you should not expect overnight success. This is not impossible, but just like those people who have gained a lot of pounds over several years will not lose that weight in a healthy manner in days or even weeks. The same is with changing your thinking patterns. If you are thinking negative thoughts, and have set up those mental circuits you will experience a conflict in thoughts when you start thinking positively. This is where you need to be tough and push through it.

You have the ability to do so, because you are the one who set those thoughts up to begin with! Thats right. The first step is taking responsibility for it. That is not to say blame yourself, that is not true responsibility. It is the first step to becoming cause rather than effect.

Once you have done that, now make realistic goals. Think about the phrase “I’m never going to be unhappy again”. That might sound positive at first glance, but it is very negative. First of all, it would be impossible. Second, the loss of a loved one would make one upset. You would become somewhat of a social outcast if you did make that phrase come true. Thirdly, it actually emphasizes negatives. Instead of “will not”, “wont”, “shouldn’t” etc put them into positives. “I can”, “I am”, “I feel” etc have an emphasis on your true abilities.

Now, with the emphasis on the positive, make the positivity realistic. Do not confuse positive thinking with dreams, dreams are good stuff. They are things like “I will have a boat one day” type of thing. That is great, but for now we really want to emphasize the here and now. Try and emphasize the present time. Sit down in a comfortable space. Feel how comfortable the chair is, allow yourself to relax. Sit up straight. Take in a deep breath and relax. Find a truth in how you feel and are thinking. By this I mean find something that is true for you, like “I feel relaxed and I like it”, something like that. You will brighten up and feel better.

The trap that people get into when negativity encroaches onto them is buying into it. It has been said that the truth shall set you free, well if the negativity was true then you would feel good about it wouldn’t you? Focus on the positive.

Do the above as much as you like. If negativity creeps in do not worry about it, just acknowledge that it is there and that at some point it will be resolved. Now you can start living again. Keep your posture good. This is a feedback mechanism that the body has. If you straighten yourself up now, do it, you will feel brighter and have a higher self-esteem. Keep this up. Now, why not treat yourself to some new clothes? Something that flatters yourself. Take the time to smile at someone. They will feel how good you feel about yourself. The future is yours!