If a child comes to you and says “I don’t feel so good”, you respond “where does it hurt?”. The child tells you where and you begin the process of fixing the ailing area. So why don’t people do the same thing in their life? They don’t ask themselves the right question, because they don’t know the right question.

The decisions you have made in the past affect you today. In this way, the irrationalities, fears, aversions, dislikes, and barriers preventing you from reaching your goals are there simply because of decisions you have made. The environment you are in today is confused with the environment of that of yesterday. What we will do is clear those decisions out of the way so that your environment and future is not confused.

This could be anything, from losing weight to being more confident in yourself and your abilities. It could be any problems you have talking to the opposite sex, public speaking, or just barriers in the way of you doing and achieving what you want to do in life.

What we are going to do is make a list of all the things that you are upset about, what you really want to see changed in your life. We want to find out what exactly you are upset about or what you want to see changed. We want the real deal. We want to get to the bottom of the decisions and considerations you have.

1. First of all, write down the main thing that you are upset about, what it is that is bothering you, whatever behavior pattern, thought pattern, past bad experience that is still bothering you
2. Ask yourself “what is wrong with that?”, “Why?”
3. Write down the answer
4. Repeat 2 and 3 until you have a real eureka moment

Now that you have the real issue underlying how you feel we need to find out the earliest time when that incident or idea occurred. Keep scanning around until you find what is most real to you. By just finding this you will get a feeling of relief.

Now, regarding that incident or time, ask yourself each of the following questions in turn. You may not be able to answer each one, if not, continue on to the next question.

1. At that time, was anything suppressed?
2. At that time, was anything you were careful of?
3. At that time, was anything didn’t reveal?
4. At that time, was there anything there that you said wasn’t there?
5. At that time, was anything suggested?
6. At that time, had a mistake been made?
7. At that time, was anything protested?
8. At that time, was anything you were anxious about?
9. At that time, was anything decided?
10. At that time, was anything withdrawn from?
11. At that time, was anything reached?
12. At that time, was anything ignored?
13. At that time, was anything stated?
14. At that time, was anything helped?
15. At that time, was anything altered?
16. At that time, was anything revealed?
17. At that time, was anything asserted?
18. At that time, was anything agreed with?

If you have experienced a good deal of relief, end off and enjoy the feeling. If you feel that there is more, go to the beginning step and repeat.