Enhanced Ability

PMA! PMA! The emphasis on mental health has increased along with the pace of modern lifestyles. With deadlines, mortgages and bills there is stress stress stress. A little stress is good, but when the balance is tipped then something has to give. Part of every successful person is the drive to get better and better, to push their abilities further and further. It is always possible to improve and how good can you really get anyway?

So we have modern lifestyles with its incumbent stress, those who feel fine but want to improve what they have got. How can you improve then? Hypnosis and self hypnosis have been around a long time, but where are all the success stories? It seems the only “miracle” stories are few and far between. NLP it seems has taken over the market these days. But is all of this necessary for simply developing a winning attitude? The classic “every day in every way I’m getting better and better” is the classic phrase, or mantra, has been adopted by the hypnosis community, but in reality this phrase is just an affirmation of yourself.

Life is full of traumatic experiences, and full of people going through those experiences. Upsets can be as contagious as any disease. A man’s dog dies and he walks along the street glowering at people. They have no idea what he is going though, yet that glower will affect them negatively. It is natural for a person who has any sort of upset to feel sad – that is the appropriate emotion for the experience. If a person feels sad for no apparent reason, this is an area where positive thinking will work wonders.

Each and every time you think the same thought, patterns in your mind and even a physical change in neurones occur in your brain. This is scientific fact. A person can and does get into certain behavior patterns – either good or bad. The more times you have thought the way you have thought, the more solid it appears. The more “thats just the way it is” it seems to be. This is not necessarily true. It is as solid as you are making it.

If you have been thinking negative thoughts for weeks, years, or even most of your lifetime, you should not expect overnight success. This is not impossible, but just like those people who have gained a lot of pounds over several years will not lose that weight in a healthy manner in days or even weeks. The same is with changing your thinking patterns. If you are thinking negative thoughts, and have set up those mental circuits you will experience a conflict in thoughts when you start thinking positively. This is where you need to be tough and push through it.

You have the ability to do so, because you are the one who set those thoughts up to begin with! Thats right. The first step is taking responsibility for it. That is not to say blame yourself, that is not true responsibility. It is the first step to becoming cause rather than effect.

Once you have done that, now make realistic goals. Think about the phrase “I’m never going to be unhappy again”. That might sound positive at first glance, but it is very negative. First of all, it would be impossible. Second, the loss of a loved one would make one upset. You would become somewhat of a social outcast if you did make that phrase come true. Thirdly, it actually emphasizes negatives. Instead of “will not”, “wont”, “shouldn’t” etc put them into positives. “I can”, “I am”, “I feel” etc have an emphasis on your true abilities.

Now, with the emphasis on the positive, make the positivity realistic. Do not confuse positive thinking with dreams, dreams are good stuff. They are things like “I will have a boat one day” type of thing. That is great, but for now we really want to emphasize the here and now. Try and emphasize the present time. Sit down in a comfortable space. Feel how comfortable the chair is, allow yourself to relax. Sit up straight. Take in a deep breath and relax. Find a truth in how you feel and are thinking. By this I mean find something that is true for you, like “I feel relaxed and I like it”, something like that. You will brighten up and feel better.

The trap that people get into when negativity encroaches onto them is buying into it. It has been said that the truth shall set you free, well if the negativity was true then you would feel good about it wouldn’t you? Focus on the positive.

Do the above as much as you like. If negativity creeps in do not worry about it, just acknowledge that it is there and that at some point it will be resolved. Now you can start living again. Keep your posture good. This is a feedback mechanism that the body has. If you straighten yourself up now, do it, you will feel brighter and have a higher self-esteem. Keep this up. Now, why not treat yourself to some new clothes? Something that flatters yourself. Take the time to smile at someone. They will feel how good you feel about yourself. The future is yours!